The Importance Of Knowing Your Ancestry, In Your Healing Process
I hadn't seen my grandma in years, she looked at me with joyful eyes, as we embrace she kept saying Bororo, Bororo. I was confused but out of respect I didn't bother to question her. We all gathered around her, my sisters and I, as each of us explained to her what was going on in our lives. When my turn came, she held my hand again and with a smile, she let out Bororo. This time I gathered the courage to ask what she meant. Grandma smiled and said it's the name of your great grand mother's tribe. She continued by explaining that her mother was part of a Fulani travelling tribes named Bororo Woadaabe from the region of Cameroon and met my great grandfather who was an Arab from Chad on one of her nomadic trips. She told me the reason why she kept saying Bororo is that I resemble the people of that tribe.
Wodaabe also known as Bororo are a small subgroup of the Fulani ethnic group. They are traditionally nomadic cattle-herders and traders who inhabit the regions of Niger, Nigeria, Cameroon and southwestern Chad. The name Wodaabe sometimes translate, as those who respect the taboos. For instance, an interesting fact, about the Wodaabe people is that it is acceptable for a woman to have sex with numerous partners until she gets married and women are also entitle to have as many husbands as they want.
I sat there thinking, it made sense that I would come from a tribe of nomads knowing the different places that I called home over my 27 years of life. It also made sense that I would come from a tribe that respects taboo things, knowing my interest in everything that is "weird" and or taboo. This to me is the importance of getting to know your ancestry because we all carry our ancestors on our backs. Whether we know it or not we all behave in a way that aligns itself with the behaviors of our ancestors. Moreover, this doesn't only apply to behaviors, it also applies to trauma, you can feel the pain of your ancestor running through your veins. This is powerful, and the reason why I encourage everyone to get to know their history. To me, this is a crucial step in the process of healing because to know where you are going you must first analyze where you come from.